First off, I must say that the foundation of any relationship determines its future. In the case of Tuface and Annie, their marriage was built on shaky ground, riddled with red flags from the beginning. Yet, Annie chose to stay, believing in love and hoping for the best. As a woman, I empathize with her because love is not a crime. She made a choice, and life is ultimately about the choices we make. Annie chose Tuface, standing by him during the early days of his rising music career, even when he fathered children with other women and maintained relationships with his baby mamas. These actions eventually led to the public crisis that unfolded years later.
Love is not a crime, but women must learn to place themselves above men in relationships. Self-love is not selfish; it is essential. We must prioritize nurturing ourselves, especially in moments of turmoil. This is why many women are rallying around Annie today—they understand what it means to love a man deeply, selflessly, and endlessly, often at their own expense. I, too, have walked in those shoes. But here’s the hard truth: men will always choose themselves first. Experience and maturity have taught me that self-love is a lesson I must pass on to my children.
What Annie tolerated, accommodated, and endured is something most men could never handle if the tables were turned. Let’s be real: imagine a man touching your wife’s waist or holding her shoulder—some marriages would crumble from that alone. Drama, accusations, and even divorce could follow. Yet, Annie endured far more.
From Tuface’s perspective, we must acknowledge that we don’t know the full story. We don’t know what’s going through his mind or what he has been through. It’s easy to judge, but it’s better to refrain. One thing I commend him for is his composure. He hasn’t taken to social media to air their dirty laundry. Instead, he has handled the situation with a level of maturity, despite being the genesis of many of their challenges. Watching his recent videos, you can sense the weight of his emotions—his voice and demeanor reveal that there’s more to this man than meets the eye.
I’m not saying Tuface is a saint—far from it. And Annie isn’t entirely innocent either. Both are guilty in their own ways. What saddens me most is how social media has turned their pain into a circus, with people casting blame, hurling insults, and even laying curses. What happened to hearing both sides before fueling a frenzy? In today’s world, we must remember that behind every public drama are real people with real emotions. Instead of judging, we should focus on the lessons and pray for their healing.
This situation is an opportunity to teach the next generation. We must save the next girl by teaching her the importance of self-love and self-development. As women, we need to empower ourselves so we’re never stuck in situations where we sacrifice our happiness and well-being for the sake of love or marriage. Marriage does not validate your existence—whether you’re a man or a woman.
Tuface and Annie are not the first couple to divorce, and they won’t be the last. Divorce is not the end of life; sometimes, it’s the beginning of growth. Growth leads to healing, and healing can lead to prosperity. I speak from personal experience. This divorce might help them become better individuals, co-parent peacefully, and even remain friends. Instead of judging, let’s pray for their healing and growth. Let’s remember that God is the ultimate source of strength, not any man or marriage.
We all have our challenges, and this might be theirs. Meanwhile, many online critics are dealing with their own struggles but choose to project their pain onto others. We must be wise enough to recognize that everyone is fighting battles. As women, let’s remember that economic power and self-love are the keys to thriving in any relationship. Let’s learn from Tuface and Annie’s story and strive to build lives rooted in self-respect, growth, and resilience.
“Kilelomo Atanda-Owo” Is An Ace Broadcaster and Chief Consultant, Z-Edge Holdings