I have never understood jelaousy. Its just such a vile feeling getting really mad that someone is giving his own body to another person just cos you both agreed to have mutual exclusivity over each others bodies.
Its funny in its pain. U see tears, anger and in some cases violence just because someone has used his or her own body they way he or she wants.
After careful analysis, i have come to the realisation that its not the physical exchange of fluids that leads to the anger and sense of betrayal but the deceit.
The deceit is what triggers the jelaousy. The fact that you are actually doing what we agreed you will not do with someonelse in the dark is the issue.
When u get cheated on, you begin to imagine all sorts. The words, the flirting, the things he used to do with you with the other person and you just die.
Truth is that women handle Jealousy better. They expect it and are better at curating it. Yes in some cases they loose it, pull hair and strip each other naked at the banal level but at the end, they have societal buffers that helps them heal faster
For men, its worse. Cos jelaousy comes with a large dose of loss of self dignity and thats why men find it hard to engage they don’t talk about it and just handle the pain internally and look for 600 women to fuck in revenge or someone to kill.
Well there seems to be a drastic solution to curbing jelaousy and understanding it. Just like how they say, to cure some illnesses u throw more virus into the body, this just might be the solution.
Threesomes. This is where PARTNERS bring in a third party. Before you scream Edgar is mad again, hear me out.
I have watched several swinger documentaries and in almost all, you hear of particpants talking about how surprised they were when they coudnt get jealous seeing their partners kissing or making love to another person.
You knw why, cos trust has not been infringed. The act is going on in full supoort and glare of each other. So surprisingly there is no anger cos you are carried along.
Its like when u are in an illegal relationship and your partner tells you that he or she is going for the weekend with his or her partner to the bahamas, you will say its ok.
You will knw they will fuck and u will not be disturbed cos the trust factor has not been infringed. You are aware that this person is with Mr A and as long as its Mr A is the perosn taking her to the Bahamas, you are ok.
You will even be calling and be getting updates and even if she tells you that – kai he has been a bull, you will laugh.
But imagine if she didnt tell u and u found out that she actually went with Mr B, you will quickly call a native doctor to make her menstrual flow pour out
So you see that deceit is the bane of jelaousy and not physical cheating
Now threesomes are beacoming very rampant. Most couples between the ages of 22 to 40 have had a threesome at least once in Nigeria.
Couples bw 40 and 55 wil try it at least once with differnt reactions. Some will like it others will hate it.
It comes withh strategic guidelines- power balance, timing and constant monitoing by the man.
Two major rules though, as a man, always finsih with ur partner. Never finish off with the other person otherwise you wont reach home alive and never let your partner leave the room without you. Let the weaker person always go alone and never escort her.
Never whisper to her and be as open as u can be.
Best advise is to use a ‘body’ someone you have no feelings for so that you can easily protect your partner and not get carried away from the sweetness of two P…y staring at you.
Better still, both of you ho take a Nuru Spa they litter lekki . Here the massuese takes the power and pleasure both of you at the same time.
Watching your partner humping another person is a kind of an elixir. it kills the jelaousy and allows you face your ultimate fear.
It comes highly recommended by the swinger community but also comes with its very dangerous pitfalls
Most women have Lesbian tendencies. You may go in there to protect your partner and end up loosing her.
Seen this happen to many couples. The latent lesbian in her is awoken and thats it. Kai
You may not be emotionally strong enough to handle the cascading sexual power in the room and you may fail and end up with your head broken
You may fall in love with the partner as she would most likely be better experienced
You must knw how to muzzle your moans when you are with the other person other wise your wife will break your head as you dey scream on top another woman
This is not to recommend a threesome as a panacea to Jealousy, this is just me giving a full report on my research on the matter.
Jealousy is not necessarily as a result of physical rascality but comes up in most cases from the deceit that comes with doing stuff against initially agreed precepts in a relationship.
NB this and other stories will form part of the Play Our Duke Has Gone Mad Again in December to be directed by Segun Adefila.
